In our society, we have determined that a male goes from a boy to a man around the age of 18. After all, they can join the military, buy tobacco and go to college where they are free to make a plethora of mistakes (the same could be said of girls and women, too).
However, a lot of “men” are putting their focus on fun and pursuing the easy road in life rather than personal growth. No good can come from this either in your immediate sphere of existence or at the societal level.
So, what really makes a man? The answer is commitment.
Where a boy seeks after comfort, a man seek after commitment.
Of course, commitment isn’t always fun but it is imperative for growth. Instead of taking the necessary actions to positively influence our families, a lot of adult males take the comfortable road by pursuing things outside of the home. Rather than properly disciplining our children, we have chosen some bar league sport. Instead of spending quality time with our women, the golf course often seems more important.
Now, being involved in sports and other interests aren’t wrong; it’s crucial for a man (and everyone else) to have hobbies and enjoy life. But when your fun overshadows your commitments, there is a serious problem.
When a man forgoes his commitments, all sorts of wrongs occur. You neglect your wife, children are habitually disobedient and finances can tumble out of control. For the single man, ignoring your commitments will hinder your potential and cause people to lose faith in you.
We should challenge ourselves to take the hard road and become better men. Then, and only then, will life become more comfortable.
1 Corinthians 13:11 (ESV)
When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I though like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.